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maxiumeffort914

For me it's any gift at all. Every woman I've been with never buys me stuff. Idk if women feel men don't need, want or appreciate gifts or if I just pick women that think that.


Ash_oh

That makes me sad, I always get gifts for my bf. I just bought him slippers that match mine and our kids. He acts like he’s not excited but I always knows he is. Soon as I showed him them, I had to run outside I came back in and he had thrown them on so fast lol


maxiumeffort914

Typical male response lol


Ash_oh

The acting like he’s not excited?


maxiumeffort914

Ya. Men will say "it's ok." Then u see them wearing it, using it ect everyday. Yup its just ok


Ash_oh

I love it hahaha


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maxiumeffort914

Bot! tell that to my phone!


RunAsArdvark

Good Phone


uncher33

Good bot


ThatAltAccount99

My responses to gifts always disappoint people which makes me sad but it's really never because I dislike the gift just because idk how to express myself


Pancakegoboom

I learned a long time ago to just react the way my Nana would. She always made everyone feel like they *nailed* their gift, and she was just happy to be remembered (self esteem issues). So I pulled a "fake it till you make it" and now in general my sentiments are genuine.


Champ-Aggravating3

Idk about the women you’ve dated, but I personally hardly ever buy my SO anything, even though I love getting little things for people, because he is so damned hard to buy for. Sometimes women don’t know what men want, especially if you’re the type of guy who doesn’t like to have a lot of stuff in the house


maxiumeffort914

I'm a very open man. They know they could've got me weed, or sunglasses. I'm always getting stoned and loosing those. But u should get him accessories like watches belts shoes stuff like that. also sunglasses men love em and always lose em. Maybe not for the same reason as me.


RelevantButNotBasic

Literally.. aggravated as hell that I lost my pair. Dude its like the 3rd pair ive bought this year..


loftier_fish

Ive had one pair of $5 sunglasses from amazon for about 10 years now.


RelevantButNotBasic

Are they polarized tho?...


loftier_fish

no :( I’ve been considering getting a new pair for that very purpose. These ones certainly help during sunrise and sunset, but polarized would be really nice. But also, I am very frugal.


sthbr

i could put shady rays out of business w how many i lost


Comprehensive_Tree65

My partner said the same thing about me, she always told me that "I am so hard to buy for, but, you always get me the thing I want or need." She has asked me what I want and my only response is "this watch (showing her the picture) and your company"... I never got the watch.


Comprehensive_Tree65

Never disappointed


akrolina

I agree. My husband needs nothing, and he wants the stuff that I can’t afford but he can. He does not appreciate almost nothing I bought him and almost get offended if he does not like something i got him. While me… i pretend to like whatever even if I dont cause i try to spare his feelings. Now I have switched to hand made gifts (I draw pictures of us or something) got him a big bunch of fruit for our 3 years anniversary, and wrote him a love song for the next one. Though still need to figure out how to write ukulele chords for it cause i don’t have enough practice 🥲 and the chords I think fit definitely does not. also he will always appreciate a massage.


haleyxciiiiiiiiii

my fiancé is so hard to buy for, so i usually end up getting things i know he’ll use and love but won’t end up buying for himself. He likes whisky and he trades in the stock market so i bought him a bottle of Mccallen 18 year and a decanter in the form of a Bull(he’s a never bet against the government type lol). he loved it and everytime he makes $1,000 in the market i make him an old fashioned from the bull


-individuals

I was about to say lol, but then I got to the end. I love buying gifts for my partners and even my crushes. Before my ex and I were even official, I bought him some coffee mugs for his new apartment because he didn't have any and needed some. I got them based on this cartoon that I introduced him to and that we affectionately called "our show." So it was super cute. You just have to find you a girl that cares enough about you or make it clear that you like receiving gifts. There's nothing wrong with that.


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Guyspanksgirls

I’m sad to hear this but also feel this so much right now. A little appreciation can go along way for some people.


Hour_Friendship_7960

That IS sad. I put a lot of time and effort into getting my SO something that will make them happy. I believe birthdays and Christmas are extra special days where you get to treat them to something special, something they wouldn't normally buy for themselves because it's expensive or childish or both. They should be able to do whatever makes them happy.


ksmith11011

Totally agree, any small gift. I had a friend give me a bead bracelet a couple years ago.. I was shocked as no one had ever done anything like that for me. I still wear it every day.


hinmity24

My brother and I buy stuff for ourselves for Xmas. Lol. We wrap our items and toss them under the tree and come xmas morning, we unwrap them in front of our gfs. We are both in our 40s and have been doing this for years. I like to throw in a "(my name), you shouldn't have! Omg ty so much, I love it. You're welcome (my own name)"


alltheusernamesrtkn

I get my dude gifts all the time. So he knows I appreciate and love him. I just got him the Dr. Squatch Starwar soaps because he likes Star Wars and that brand of soap. He loved it.


[deleted]

Idk but can someone get me flowers once?


luniixyn8803

✿ There you go. I hope you receive flowers soon.


[deleted]

Thank you 🥺


Pixelpeoplewarrior

NGL, thought that was a soccer ball with dark mode on


KittenOnASkull

It's sweet to know that guys love flowers as much as we do. What are your favorite flowers?


A--Creative-Username

Lotus flowers are my favourite but i'm not sure how practical a water flower is for a gift. Probably laceleaf for land flowers


littlelizardfeet

My boyfriend likes water flowers too! He has a wide and shallow glass bowl on the kitchen counter and floats them.


kfspence1011

🌸 🌸 🌸


ladyluck8519

I used to make little bouquets for my roommate, using some of the flowers that I bought for my own vases. Now we're married, and I still give him flowers. I hope you get flowers soon, but if you don't, just pick up a $4 bunch at the supermarket every once in awhile! 💗


BookWormBookStorm

I sent my bf flowers at his home and he got super embarrassed but he also loved it. His family knows about us so that's not an issue but he was embarrassed. Next time I said, am sending you flowers, I got a lecture about wasting money 🤦


KINGSPAZT1K

A cordless drill


DrewwwBjork

*Cordless*? You dirty birdie.


loftier_fish

Corded drills are limited and annoying.


cuesedfang

A compliment


hypollo

No joke, got told over the summer by a girl I've been seeing that I have really pretty eyes and I still think about that to this day


FrodoGaggins1

I got told I have really pretty eyes by a Hardee's employee 6 years ago and I still remember it.


mikoartss

The eyes are the groin of the head.


jackiblu25

*I have to do something to his eyes...*


RuztyPie

There is an eyeball licking fetish...


SkinkAttendant

The last comment made me laugh aloud. This one stopped that laugh dead


PrincessPeachyKeen80

No Dwight!


jackiblu25

Fine, I'll just use my *molotov cocktails.*


HeLeeiuum

A girl once told me she really liked my voice and I still think about it to this day. Nobody has really complimented me before so at the time I had no idea how to react.


SkinkAttendant

"You wanna go listen to it some more over coffee?"


HeLeeiuum

Damn, I didnot have either the smoothness or the confidence to say that. I still don't, to anyone.


KurvaKing

Anytime a woman compliments you the optimal response is “I know”.


HeLeeiuum

The optimal response? Pfffttt. It's the ONLY response.


agoxab

This 100%. It's infinitely better than a flower because a flower wilts and dies, but a compliment stays with us till we die. Most of us probably can count the compliments we get with our fingers


suavemaster

That would be nice to hear lol


therealborkas

Literally. I got a genuine random compliment from a friend 5 years ago and I still think about all the time


miz10

I can’t recall any times my last GF ever gave me a compliment in our 3 year relationship. My current GF tells me I’m handsome and other nice things every time we’re together. It’s such a night and day difference and it feels so good to hear those things.


[deleted]

Personally nothing gets me swooning like genuine, honest interest.


TeamLarge7729

Awww yeah baby! Emotionally resonating with another human being! 🥵


jazzfairy

Why can’t we just get men flowers too?


chelsboy4

I (26M) don't have a gf. If I did, and she got me flowers, is be the happiest.


GoatJesusIsReal

dude same


RevolutionaryPeak550

I’d get you flowers


chelsboy4

Aww man!! Thank you so much!


Substantial_Sir_181

I don’t speak for all men but I personally wouldn’t want to be gifted flowers unless they are part of a packaged gift. It seems wasteful to me.


Mad-_-Doctor

For me, it depends on the frequency. I think I’ve gotten my current boyfriend flowers 3 times over a year and a half. It does feel a tad wasteful, but they look and smell good, and we don’t live in the same city, so it’s a good stopgap until we can see each other again.


Champ-Aggravating3

I feel this way and I’m a woman


UTwende4

I’m in my 40’s and no one has ever given me flowers. I am totally agnostic. If a woman gave me flowers, I’d probably think - well played! But in no greater way than when she takes initiative to hug or kiss me. Frankly, I’d be more impressed by half a dozen pairs of quality socks once a year, than by flowers every week.


Fancy-Painkiller

I’m a woman and I don’t like getting flowers. I’ll always appreciate the gesture and be happy about the thought, but I’d prefer getting a bag of weed if it needs to be a plant..


physicalcat282

I would like some flowers...


Done-Man

If my gf would get me flowers i would just laugh. Would find it cute since it is a gift, but i would be mostly confused


GoatJesusIsReal

agreed


emilio4jesus

fr


Mad-_-Doctor

I get my boyfriend flowers and it makes him happy. I feel like it’s more common in gay relationships because gay guys are already seen as less masculine, and most of us just don’t care anymore.


Zamaroth66

I always wondered why that is. Makes absolutely no sense to me.


bigrottentuna

You can. It’s a sweet thought, but no thanks. I’m allergic to and don’t particularly like cut flowers. Now a live orchid or something I can plant in my garden is a completely different story.


atTheRealMrKuntz

Yes I like getting flowers too


Affectionate-Kick-25

I mean you can I love flowers but they're asking for an equivalent.


Skryingqt

My girlfriend just listens to me ramble random stuff about games, sports, politics just about anything. She will sit there happily and listen even though she never has a clue what I'm on about half the time. That's enough for me honestly. She gives me her time so I can get things off my mind.


AlternativeFocus3418

bro idk why girls seem to like doing this my mom likes to listen to me ramble and a girl friend I have who is not my 'girlfriend' says she likes to also for some reason and my ex gf also liked to listen to me ramble idk what the deal is I've never had a guy say the same thing


TheisNamaar

Love is honesty and she is letting you be your honest self, talking about your passions. What could possibly be better?


External_Visit8416

Yep my man is a TALKER but it works because I just sit back and listen :)


Skryingqt

Haha we really do appericate it. I probably should tell her more that I appericate it.


khaticus

A bouquet of BJs


ShiroYaksha01

Blueberry Jam?


[deleted]

Beef jerky.


Ok-Lengthiness4557

Ooohhhhh, I have never recieved one of those so whatever it is I assume it is like winning the lottery.


khaticus

Probably a lot like it! As long as you’re not one of those people that scratch off your tickets at the counter in the gas station. Unless.....


Bimlouhay83

A win we can all enjoy.


CodyPomeray_

memberships?


khaticus

There’s this BJ of the month club, you know. Always accepting new...ahem...members. *snicker


Moon-Lord-

Give him your severed left ear and your toenail collection. That way he will always have someone to talk too, and have a snack whilst doing it.


A--Creative-Username

What a terrible day to read


[deleted]

Oh lord


Alara-Ni

r/makemesuffer


ShiroYaksha01

Pulling a Van Gogh I see


butitoldyouso

So dark, love it


pm__me__nudepics

On the shitter and there's people in other stalls.... they just heard me bust myself laughing so nice one for that.


[deleted]

Eh I've heard worse.


tony_tripletits

I wouldn't be upset to receive flowers. I like colour and certain delicacies in my world but if money was spent, I would rather it be spent on something else. The old sayings about a man's heart being tied to his stomach do contain truth. Receiving a small amount of bougie or high brow food/appetizer/drink or a home cooked meal that I know took effort, would make me happy. There's no requirement for a woman to be a homemaker but such a meal can make a great surprise gift.


thr0w4way1029

A compliment:(


Light_Song

A simple compliment. Acknowledgement means a lot.


VeeSquibbles

This may sound very sus, but a nice home cooked meal always makes my man feel nice and giddy in the inside


WhoAm_I_WhyAm_I_Here

Well ya. That's nice giddy feeling is digestion, cause ya know we are all of it and need a good lie down and watch something for a little bit


Eidalan

Just stfu and let me hold you. Nuzzle me, goddamnit.


darogu

Food


GeorgVonHardenberg

Personally, a great book :) Books are sexy.


Hot-Carrot9

Lady here, but hands down the best gift ever is a good book ♡


PunkoJunkoEatsSalt

A cactus.


Luna_15323

I would actually be happy with one of those tiny cacti they sell at grocery stores or wherever they sell succulents


GoatJesusIsReal

oh my god i 19(m) think those are so cute


[deleted]

😂


ChocolateAmanita

I gave my now husband a cactus in a pot for our first Valentines day when we started dating. He loved it.


[deleted]

Good question... never tough about it...


Kind-Relative-9089

I'd like flowers too. I don't understand why guys are assumed to be unable of appreciating the beauty in them.


BaffledAndBemused

I think it's that generally it's 50/50 over whether a guy likes flowers. For example my bf thinks they're pointless and doesn't understand why they make me so happy, but equally I don't understand why he's so excited when I do the washing up for both of us (we eat different things at different times so usually we do our own washing-up)


HealthyFail8381

I’d most appreciate something like a well written thoughtful card or even a cute note that references some inside joke with some chocolate or a coffee


bhosadiwalechacha

Pens for me ...or Post it sticky notes. I love stationery.


dead_for_now07

Same. Plus i see so many stationery videos with various kinds of planners, sticky notes, journals n stuff.


CapedRaccoon

Anything that is done as a genuine sign of affection, rather than as a token gesture. I dont care if you buy the wrong size of socks, or burn a salad. As long as the the action was your honest, and dedicated attempt to show that you like and appreciate me.


GotMyOrangeCrush

Beer


admiral_walsty

And food, and general pampering..... especially after a long day.


Ok-Letterhead4601

Car parts and tools.


khaticus

“I hope my love to you is reflected in the mirrored coating of this slightly dented hubcap I found in the parking lot.”


Zamaroth66

It is advised to check before If the guy actually owns a car. Otherwise you will have a nice Wayne's World 'Stacy brings a gun rack' moment


meme_enthusiast3464

Compliments are great, I rarely get them, but when I do, I think about it non stop for several days.


Strong_Breadfruit_43

I’ve honestly never thought of anyone buying me anything. I think just about anything would work.


dishswe27

I like getting flowers lol. I like giving flowers too


Southern-Care212

Flowers. My girlfriend bought me flowers the other day. I almost cried.


uduwar

Blowjob? Is that sexist?


MR___SLAVE

Come now, a blowjob isn't with your mouth, it's with your heart. Now get on your knees and put that heart to work!


Balor_Lynx

Blowjob, listen we’re all thinking it


midoxvx

I came here for that.


A--Creative-Username

Or tits


vilelemonsquare

I don’t think you would be happy if you got severed tits as a gift


Pete_maravich

Tools


CSBastion

Oh so just because I'm a man I can't think of flowers as romantic? DISCRIMINATION I SAY! Fine then, from now on the male equivalent of flowers is a leather harness and whip. There. That's what you get for not letting me be romantic.


123fass

When my wife goes grocery Shopping (usually i do it, because i am the cook), she sometimes brings a bottle of a special beer to try. Inthink thats pretty cute


superdave70360

Beer! Give a man beer he will love you for it


Outrageous_State9450

Knives, firearms, snacks, sex, a Swanson TV dinner. Basically anything is romantic, my wife finds me a rock I’m thrilled


gunluver

Random,out of nowhere bj.


idiohivemind

BJ


[deleted]

any thoughtful gift


Ok-Lengthiness4557

Great answer. Doesn't have to be expensive at all. Something that shows you know him. An affinity gift... for me that would be bourbon or something related to music or movies, prob something different for your man.


jagjuan4

Lol, isn't that missing the point? Flowers are a *nearly* thoughtless gift. You can get them just about anywhere- grocery, side of the road, cornerstore, etc. and take no preparation or planning. You still thought of the person, which is why it's always nice and Can put more though into it(delivery, color, type of flowers) but I think of it as something you can grab any time to be nice- a step above a candy bar or drink at the gas station.


Harvard-23

Socket wrenches


StinkerLove

Depends on the dude: beer, doing some of his house chores so he can watch a game or whatever, making his fave food, weed, viagra, Imodium …


Sheepdog010

I'd love flowers, compliments, chocolates, hell, get me a teddy bear or a nice bracelet and I'll love it.


Electroboi2million

I don’t know I think flowers are awesome


tarukicker

For me personally, digital copies of movies or video games. For other people I know tools


themiatacrackhead

Helping us fix stuff and play games?


ballbouncebroken

Donuts.


Accomplished-Ant-403

Back scratching, chest rubbing, anything like that for me at least.


Scruffy_Buddha

Beer


Abdul_Exhaust

The correct answer is *food*


Rich_Operation_8764

my boyfriend likes back scratches


mrhymer

A back rub. Tell him he makes you feel safe Tell him your life is better because he is there Quietly set some snacks he likes near him while he is doing the important work of killing digital enemies. Point out what he does that you like. When he does that thing that makes you wet tell him or even better show him. If he does not do anything that makes you wet break up with him so he can find that girl.


jess_summer11

I buy my husband lillies because they're his favorite flower plus he loves to plant them in pots bc they regrow annually. I also get him his favorite candies, little products he likes to use like lotion, cologne, soaps. He also likes manly smelling candles. I also buy him scented salts and massage oils so I can soak his feet then rub them. Also buy him little things to make his life easier/ better. My husband works outdoors/ driving so I buy him little fans to cool him down, purple seat cushions, gel hats that I refrigerate so he can cool off and ease heat headaches, just small little surprises that he will use often.


L3monJad3

I find that giving a man a bag full of his favorite snacks does the trick. I do this for my husband often as I feel he is a tad difficult to buy for but I know what snacks he loves so I just get a bag and fill it with his favorite treats. Bonus is I know he will love it because it's his favorite stuff. 👍


Branchdressing

So for our anniversary last week I got my wife her favorite flowers. She got me a vinyl record from one of my favorite bands. I think I came out ahead in this transaction.


SoggyPastaPants

Just being embraced randomly. Especially after a long day. The feeling of being appreciated without words.


HillbillySwank

Mowing the lawn. Taking out the garbage. Maybe listening to me for 30 seconds after the 20 minute rant about your work day and the women you don’t like,while I sit there and nod?


DrewwwBjork

You mean you're *not* taking advantage of those 20 minutes and having a beer or two? You're doing it wrong then. 😉


VCRdrift

Power tools. Or a gun.


A--Creative-Username

Spot the American


Complex-Rise-8913

a plant


HealthyFail8381

Venus fly trap fo sho


A_V8

Tools


2012Dodgedurango

Legooooss


Altruistic_Ad3455

I would be very surprised and at aww with my wife if she gave me this… a no questions asked and no condition to just go out with the guys. Most of us just like time with friends too for me it would be my brother and she did once. I got home and said your brother called to ask if you could go have drinks and dinner. She had the kiddos busy as to not see me get home and just shut the door and said just let me know where you go and have fun. We went to a bar had some beers and wings the whole time I was worried and did not know what to expect but in the middle of it she texts if you good I’m we are going to bed back door is open see you in the morning. Got home late and she woke up to say did you have a good time? Then I said yes thank you and then I showered laid down and even got put to sleep when she was done she said just it was that or flowers but I didn’t know if you would enjoy them as much! True story!


SlytherinGentleman

I don't think I've ever been given a gift outside of my bday or Xmas. Can't even think of something I'd want but since I've never been given a gift, any gift would be pretty amazing and really stand out.


onebeerdrinkinhippo

If someone gifted me dead plants I would appreciate the gesture and be at the same time confused about what the point is. If youre gonna spend 60 bucks to give me flowers just make them cannabis flowers, otherwise they’ll sit in a big beer glass for a few days and then go in the bin. A good romantic alternative might be chocolate or a nice dinner or some kind of activity together.


imaginewagwans

Whisky?


joodicial

A back massage with an option of extras


kim-wrong-un

Runderwear please. Yep. You read that right.


[deleted]

Baja blast


[deleted]

My wife bought me a wallet last week. My last one I had over 12 years. She didn’t realize it was my Dad’s and I had been carrying it since he died. So anyway my mom noticed my new wallet and told her the story of my old one. That old torn apart ripped up fake leather wallet is now in a beautiful case with pictures I didn’t know I had of my dad and me when I was a baby and when I was barely an adult. Women put more thought into their gifts in my experience. I’ll never be basic and get my wife shitty flowers again.


Alienhed12

Marijuana


ChumbisPoody

Gaming stuff


No_Bartofar

Any gift at all, Ammo is a show stopper.


D_B_C1

A ribeye steak for me


apeoples13

My husband likes craft beer so I try to pick up some different ones when I travel so he can try them


SearcherRC

A shoulder massage or a good meal. Maybe leaving a note that says good luck with your meeting, job interview or some other life event.


SillyPcibon

Video games


SledgehammerWork

Beer!


simonisok

Getting them something they like or an item they’re interested in.


rondomguy

Actually talked with my wife about this a week ago. In my opinion, a random, unasked for spicy picture or BJ is equivalent. It fulfills the same criteria. You were thinking about him before giving it, you showed appreciation in a way guys like and it’s a selfless gift just for them.


tamarockstar

A 6 pack of good beer. It could really be anything that he'd appreciate you going out of your way to get that he'd enjoy.


Hardrada74

Ammo. 9mm .308, 5.56..


ChristianEric-

"Hey babe, looking rather girthy today"


Buugybuug

I get my husband energy drinks. He loves new flavors, so I always check what's new for him to try. (He also likes fun potato chip flavors)


FunResponsibility826

Alone time lol


PurelyNegative

Honestly flowers aren’t romantic they die within 3 days tops. If you wanna give me them sure but expect those to be in a plastic Elsa cup and dead working 3 days


ScruffleMcDufflebag

So I told myself months back that on my next date, I would buy the man flowers. I've been waiting to keep that promise, but I haven't had a chance to go on a date yet. I am 100% keeping this promise and I cannot wait to see the look on the guy's face!


j_rom_003

Alone time. I know it sounds counter intuitive but to give someone time to themselves is deeply connecting on individual needs. I know the jokes will soon follow... but if you think about the common joke or portrayal is someone watching TV or on the phone or hanging out with their boys/or girls and their partner shows up or calls and ruins the "fun".